Witt, an intrepid journalist and mordantly ambivalent memoirist, looks forward rather than back.
With no serious boyfriend in sight—“love is rare,” she writes, “and it is frequently unreciprocated”—she set out to examine alternatives to a “monogamous destiny,” eager for a future in which “the primacy and legitimacy of a single sexual model” is no longer assumed.
Sixth-graders claim to be dating when, after extensive negotiations conducted by third parties, two of them go out for ice cream.
Many college students and 20‑somethings don’t start dating until after they’ve had sex.
The term has outlasted more than a century’s worth of evolving courtship rituals, and we still don’t know what it means.
The obvious reason for declining marriage rates is the general erosion of traditional social conventions.
A less obvious reason is that the median age for both sexes when they first wed is now six years older than it was for their counterparts in the 1960s.
Like any other freelance operator, you have to develop and protect your brand.
At its worst, as Moira Weigel observes in her recent book, Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating, dating is like a “precarious form of contemporary labor: an unpaid internship.