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When the triangle consists of son-wife-mother, the narcissistic mother’s control in her son’s marriage is bound to create marital problems for him and his wife.
This triangle indicates that there are two women vying for one man. Conflicts increase over time and allegiances are strained.
When the narcissistic mother has dug her claws into her dependent son you can pretty much bet there are underlying marital problems in the mother’s marriage to her husband.
What often happens is the narcissistic mother and her husband get to ‘avoid’ dealing with their marital problems by getting over-involved in other activities and people. For her husband it might be over-work, another woman, or simply emotional withdrawal.
Being cautious can go a long way in preventing injury. A friend of mine shared a story from one of her previous churches. Use a screen name that you do not use elsewhere (IM, Facebook, bank account, etc).
The complication from the son’s side is, not wanting to let go of his mother.Now you have a dependent son and a narcissistic mother. This co-dependent arrangement when it hits adulthood is bound to create dysfunction in both.The dysfunction often shows up the clearest in their relationships with others.You see, the mother who hangs onto her son past the time she is supposed to is expressing a certain kind of ‘narcissism.’ The narcissistic mother is trying to cure her problems within herself by hanging onto and expecting emotional things from her adult son.There’s a certain selfish, perhaps self-indulgent quality to this.